mistress anyone??

"A mistress is a man's long-term female sexual partner and companion who is not married to him, especially used when the man is married to another woman. The relationship generally is stable and at least semi-permanent; however, the couple does not live together openly. Also the relationship is usually, but not always, secret. And there is the implication that a mistress may be "kept"—i.e., that the man is paying for some of the woman's living expenses, or provides her with an allowance." - wikipedia.com

i have this social network called ning where you can post discussions
and i remember there's this one question pertaining to becoming a kept woman or what we call as "kabit". heres an excerpt of that forum:

kaw ano pipiliin mo maging kabetz or original n gf/bf.....??


hmmmmm.... s mga matatamaan walang magagalit ah....for me lng ah.kung kabetz ka, alm mo mkakasira ka ng isang rel,khit alm mo na frm d start n my gf/bf yung tao db,mas ok n yung kaw yung orig eh atleast alm mo n kaw lng db,dpende n yan sa tao.well kung matinong tao ka alm mo nman yung tama sa mali eh.kya pag my gf/bf n alm mo n dpat san ka lulugar...


MY POINT OF VIEW:(walang personalan opinion lang)

first of all, loving a commited person doest mean you're already a relationship wrecker
it only means u know how to love the sad part is with a committed man/woman
if the committed person makes a move and have ur desire granted then its no longer solely your fault (the third party cos he/she loves, the one being loved because he/she entertains, and the aggravated party cos maybe just maybe she/he has flaws)

second. who are we to judge the OTher person (you are NOT in his/her place or shoes so you DONT know what he/she is going through.. we all are SINNERS so why judge them unless u are the CREATOR), it just so happen that the LEGAL one came first( or maybe not since there is a case wherein the original love was the OTHER one and the legal one came only to reality due to inflicted force such as pikot, arranged relationship, etc)

third. being the ORIGINAL doesnt guarantee you that you are the ONLY one. the only thing that you're sure is that for the time being, you are the one whom he vows for a committment (remeber kung mahal ka niyang talaga, indi na sya mag hahanap ng IBA pa.)

"Kung dalawa ang mahal mo, piliin mo yung pangalawa. Kasi hindi ka naman magmamahal ng iba kung mahal mo talaga yung una."- ANONYMOUS

fourth. the term KABIT or OTHER WOMAN/MAN only have negative connotation because we are in a country rich in culture where NORMS is highly given of importance. (remember in ISLAM, they are allowed to have several wives as long as the man can keep up with their needs and the second, third wife etc was NEVER regarded as KABIT)

lastly, i think, the definition of WHAT IS Right and WronG IS VERY SUBJECTIVE. what is right and what is wrong is dependent on one's BELIEF, CULTURE, NORMS ( since what may be right for you may not be for me vice versa , it is the society or the majority that decides what is good and what is not)

if only people can fully manipulate their lives, then i dont think there will be someone (sane person) who will choose to be second best. but the ONE UP there has a better plan for us and sometimes HE uses a PERSON to test us, the relationship that we have and the FAITH we have for HIM.everything has a purpose and dont u think these people are here to TEST you of ur WORTHINESS (patience, understanding etc in time trials) for the person you choose to love???!- everything is FAIR in LOVE and in WAR



-p.s again these are just my opinion

*playing LIPS OF AN ANGEL by HINDER